You're broken. Now what? 3 Steps to being happy again.

dealing with depression

Right now, dear heart, you’ve hit the slumps. You’re curled up on your couch watching yet another episode of whatever on Netflix.

It feels like your brain is dead and no amount of caffeine will pump you up. You’re in your pajamas, from yesterday, despite the fact that it’s Wednesday afternoon. It seems that life itself is sucking the life out of you. 

I’ve sure been there. I believe we all have.

We host our very own pity parades from our couches into our messy kitchens as we vow once again, that we will tidy up, wash up, do the laundry, answer those client emails, make that important phone call or whatever else is on the list this week.

Yet we can’t. We just can’t. 

I hear you. I hear your blank mind & your lack of motivation. I’ve stood there, right where you are now and asked myself what it’s all for. What does it matter anyway? Who CARES?! 

Deep down we both know that you already know the answer. Yes, you do. 

You care. You do because you want a big, bold, vibrant life. A life so large & full of joy that you’d be willing to do just about anything to get it. To get there. Wherever there is. Or do you? 

Do you REALLY want this hugely happy glorious life or do you just think you do? If you really want it. Yes really-want-it. If you’ve got super-duper-awesome-laughing-like-children desire for this life. Then I can help you.

I can’t get you off your couch, brush out your hair or even get you out of those pajamas. That’s on you mama. What I can do however, is tell you how I got myself out of that slump. Over and over again.

First off.

Tidy up, damn it. There isn’t one brain, no matter how creative it is, that can live and expand successfully in a mess. Overwhelm just takes over and opens the door for Sadness and the next thing you know you’re right back on that couch again stuck between the two of them watching Netflix mindlessly. Just do it, and thank me later. 

Second.

Find something you love and makes you feel over the moon happy. It doesn’t have to be hard, time consuming or otherwise difficult. Don’t set yourself up for failure by making this part complicated.

For me, it’s sitting with a cup full of tea by a sunny window. It puts me in a great mood & allows me to daydream. I love it. Just thinking about it puts a smile on my face!

So find that thing & do it as often as possible. While you’re at it, basking in the sunshine of this thing that makes you happy, do me a favor and forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for whatever it is that got you onto that couch and slumping along to the tunes of that last pity parade. It’s okay, whatever it is that you did or did not do.

If you needed permission not to be so hard on yourself, needed permission to kindly ask Overwhelm and Sadness to leave, consider this your very own big shiny neon sign. You’re forgiven. 

Third.

You see that super long to-do list that seems bottomless & completely exhausting? Chores? Work? Kids? Crumple that silly old thing up. Now, pick up a tiny post it (or some other smallish piece of paper) and write on three things on it. Yes. Only three. Then pick the one that’s the shortest to do (or the funnest). Start with that. We’re going for easy wins here love. Easy wins bring momentum & will help coax you out of that blues you’re so content to hang out with. 

Once you’re done this one thing. Celebrate! Call a girlfriend. Put on some tunes & bust some moves. You’ve got this!

Now.

If that’s all you can muster up, just this one thing. That’s fine. Don’t worry about it, tomorrow will be just this tiny bit easier. Whatever you do, don’t feel guilty about it. Getting out of this mess takes time and it’s alright that it does. So give yourself a chance dear heart, and it’ll be alright. 

Big Love, 
Melanie